Guests are my friends...are they?
I have been thinking about this for a while since it is talked about quite often on this platform.
But to make it short, my guests are not my friends.
Because friends are people that I share personal information with.
This is not something guests are waiting for, thinking of my personal aches and pains, financial situation, relational problems. This is something specific for friends.
Do I not trust my guests? Yes, I do!
But some personal details are simply kept to one-self.
I read something about being guest-centered when it comes to being a great host.
That is exactly what I mean. A professional approach.
Is it easy? No, it isn't if you are people orientated instead of goal orientated.
Do I not like my guests if I don't share things about myself?
I love my guests! No matter what. I am highly empathic.
But I am learning to distinguish where to stop sharing personal things.
Am I saying that it is not possible to become friends with guests?
Some leave here by hugging both of us, me and my husband. Some leave without a note, without waving, just driving away, without looking.
In a hotel, I don't hug the staff. But on a farmstay, or a cosy retreat,
I think it is possible to become friends. If there is a click, trust and enjoyable healthy relationship than it is certainly something to allow to grow, but that is outside the circle of being a guest. The position of a friend is a different circle.
But, honestly, it is such a fine line!
What do you think?